“It takes a village to raise a child” is an old and common saying, but its truth runs deep. It certainly did for Jennifer and her three children – Soul, Aura, and Irie – all under four years old.
Heidi, Family Engagement Specialist, was an integral part of Jennifer’s experience at the FEC. April 2026.
When Jennifer’s family moved to San Diego, she lacked the community and support she needed. Her new identity as a wife and mother also left her feeling lost about who she was as an individual. “I had just had two babies; I was going through post-partum and changes having children,” she said. The responsibility of raising three young children in a new city meant she had no time to herself to enjoy her own interests, create community, or rediscover herself.
While pregnant with her second child, Jennifer started the search for childcare support options in San Diego. “I got a call from Head Start that they had a place,” she shared. “I had done a lot of research during my pregnancy; I was looking for extra support.” Jennifer’s family enrolled in the ECS Early Head Start Home Visitor program. At one point, all three siblings were supported by the program. While Soul has aged out, their teacher still visits to help care for Aura and Irie.
The FEC painting classes allow parents to destress, mingle, and express their creativity. April 2026.
Jennifer promised herself that once she had childcare help, she would do something for herself. “You lose a sense of identity when you become a mother,” she said. “One of my goals when I had the Home Visitor was to do something for myself, even just taking a class.”
When she saw an event listing a painting class at the Family Engagement Center (FEC) – ECS' community resource hub – Jennifer decided to give it a try. “I’ve never been into paint before; I didn’t think it was me,” she said. “I did it just to find something to do for myself. I went with my baby, she was only six or seven months. I realized with this paint class, everything in my life was go go go... I was just depleted... when I sat down to paint, I remember it was like the world stood still for a minute, because with painting you can’t rush.”
In her first painting class at FEC, Jennifer found unexpected peace and a much-needed outlet. Heidi, ECS’ Family Engagement Specialist, facilitated the class and helped keep Irie calm so Jennifer could focus on her painting. Jennifer shared that the moment of relaxation and calm caused her to burst into tears; the bottled-up emotions finally had a chance to escape. When she did, Heidi was there for her in that long overdue moment.
Jennifer found a safe place to recharge at the ECS Family Engagement Center. April 2026.
“From there it was once a month. I made a commitment to myself to go,” Jennifer said. Now, she has a place to unwind, bond with other mothers, and develop a newfound talent. “I’ve gotten compliments on my paintings,” she said. “I never saw myself as an artist.”
After that, Jennifer dove headfirst into FEC. She has acquired free resources like diapers, books, and clothes from Sharia’s Closet. “I was able to pick stuff out for, not just my kids, but also for myself,” she said. Her children are entertained in the playroom while she uses the computer lab. Jennifer also brings her kids to the home base socializations held at FEC so they can play with other children, and she can meet other parents. “I make use of every part of that place. It’s really become a second home away from home,” she said.
One of the most impactful FEC resources for Jennifer’s family are the free screenings offered by San Diego Regional Center (SDRC) at FEC. The promise of free diapers initially drew her in, but that first screening resulted in something much bigger: her oldest child’s autism diagnosis. While she was shocked at first, Jennifer shared her gratitude for the diagnosis, and the care Soul can now receive. “There are a lot of parents now I see who are new; I see the denial of the truth. Now I know the quicker you know the better, so I always advocate for getting your child screened,” Jennifer said. “It’s helped me be an advocate for my children in voicing what their needs are and gives me more knowledge and tools.”
The Family Engagement Center has free activities for both parents and children to enjoy. April 2026.
Jennifer is passionate about being an advocate for others and sharing information about FEC. She has helped connect other families – especially those with neurodiverse children – to the resources that helped her.
The FEC helped Jennifer build a community, not just for her kids, but also for herself. She has a space to swap resources and ideas, and to gain control of her identity as a wife, as a mother, and as Jennifer.
“It’s helped me journey as a mother of a special needs child. They were able to give me the steppingstones in the right direction. It's also helped connect me with the community,” she said. “It’s helping me build my village for me and my kids, helping me find my new identity as a mom.”
And to think, it all started with a painting class.
The Family Engagement Center provides a welcoming space where parents can access essential resources, services, and classes. Events are free and open to the public. See the ECS Calendar to check out what’s upcoming.
